We’ve all had those thoughts; the “F*ck it! I’m giving up! I’ll take that easier route instead” thoughts. But why haven’t we? Why have we not stopped what is making us unhappy and started something that does, even if it seems the easy way out? A question not everybody can find a half decent answer to. These are the type of thoughts we often get when we’re unhappy with our current situation and yet we make an endless list of excuses as to why we shouldn’t take the easy way out, despite knowing you could well be a happier individual if you were to do so. Money, security and lack of time often fall into this excuse bracket; but is it worth taking that risk with the probability of being happier on the other side. But, what determines this happier route as being the ‘easy way out’? It is all down to how you view it. Instead of thinking of it as giving up the current struggle, why not think of it as a change of course, another attempt at achieving happiness; a ‘change in the sails’ if you will. You can spend your life making excuses for why you ‘shouldn’t’ or ‘can’t’ do something, when really, shouldn’t you just look at the reasons you should do something? I’m sure that list will out-weigh the reasons you ‘can’t’ or ‘shouldn’t’ be doing it.
The majority have had at least small snippets of what can be seen as being happy. Whether it be a holiday with family, some time with a loved one or even just to finish decorating that room you’ve been putting off for a few weeks. We’ve all had that depressing, ‘end of holiday’ feeling or ‘post-holiday blues’. This is our comedown from our high of happiness. Yet, somehow, unlike a junkie, not all of us readily search for this high again, and instead, wait for it to land at our feet and make little/no active attempt to seek it again. Getting this ‘high of happiness’ does by no means, mean booking a holiday every other week, but instead, to do something a little different; something a little different that will put a smile upon your face. Buy a coffee and a sandwich for that homeless man you pass everyday on the way to work. Take the scenic route home from work. Call a loved one for no reason at all, just because you wanted to. Because hey, who doesn’t want a bit more happiness in their life?
Taking the ‘easy way out’ does not mean quitting the job you hate and doing your hobby full time, but to change the cause of your unhappiness. Of course not all is in your hands, but change what you do have, change it, change it a little bit, just tweak it. Tweak it to put that little smile on your face for 10 seconds or so. 10 seconds everyday and that, day-by-day, can change your outlook on what you would have previously seen as a hard time. Is there that work colleague making you dislike your job just a little bit more. Greet them with a smile. Day after, offer to make them a drink. Small changes injecting your day with a small shot of happiness. A small shot with unspoken benefits; more than you even realise.
(Photo taken at Port d’Alcúdia. On one of those ‘highs of happiness’)
Song to accompany this post:
Benjamin Francis Leftwich – Shine (AxMod Remix)